This time of year I get a lot of requests to heal broken hearts. It’s probably one of the most heart-wrenching times of the year for me as I wish I could just wave a magick wand and have everyone happy and comfy again surrounded by love.
One of the most helpful things that I’ve found goes along with today’s Daily Magick quote, ” Live out of your imagination not out of your memory.” When we look at past relationships a lot of times our minds tend to “romanticize” the memories. Most people will tend to remember extreme times, so unless you had a really horrible relationship (I hope not!), when you remember the relationship you are most likely to remember all the “good times” While it’s nice to have these sorts of memories if you are trying to get on with your life, the last thing you want to be doing is reminiscing about how amazing your memories of that relationship are. It’s good to carry some positive memories with you as any relationship will have them and it can be healing to bring them in you. It’s not good to hang out in those past memories too long as it can make you miss things in the present and even moving forward into your future if you aren’t careful. So how do we fix this?
Step one – Box up the memories. Each time you think of something from the relationship, make a mental box in your mind. Envision yourself tucking the memory in the box and then putting the lid on it. This way you won’t lose the memories, but it’s a reminder to yourself that they aren’t serving your greater good right now. If you are having trouble with the vision you can make an actual box if you find that helpful. The act of doing this will help move that energy away from your active mind. If you have to move things more than once that’s perfectly fine. Eventually, they will go away.
Step 2 – Use Your Imagination. Now that you’ve boxed up that memory, immediately replace it with one of a romantic partner you desire. What characteristics do you want them to have? How will you relate to each other? What types of things will you do? How will you feel? Get as detailed as you can. This is living in your imagination. Part of why this is so powerful is that it sets our desires into motion. It will set that energy moving to let the universe know what you want and attract a partner to you with the qualities that you are looking for. Energy work can be incredibly powerful when you work with it and even more so when you are invested fully in it with your heart and soul.
Those two steps are really powerful when you use them regularly. You can also use your imagination to help distract yourself while you heal as well. Get a book in the fantasy genre and spend some time curled up with hot chocolate on the couch reading. Grab a series that makes you happy that you want to watch and spend some extra time with it. Allow yourself to delve into the world of magick, practice your craft, go out and bond with the energies of the Earth. You can do this. You need to remain in the present and keep moving forward.
One more thing that can help you with the first two steps is Rose Quartz. Quartz is a natural amplifier of energy and Rose Quartz is the stone of love. It can help with self-love, healing your heart and drawing love towards you. All energy that you are looking for right now right? Charge a piece of rose quartz with loving energy. Feel it pulsate in your hands as you envision what it would feel like to truly be in love. Then keep that crystal on you in your pocket. Each time your mind drifts back to the past, touch the crystal and say “I am open to love” and walk yourself forward.
A lot of times you will have pain from past relationships and I’m not saying that isn’t something you need to work with. Definitely work with it, but do it on your terms. Allow yourself a certain amount of time and then make yourself get up and move forward. Choose to do things in chunks, so for example you may choose to move everything that’s theirs or related to that relationship into a physical box. After you do so you may wish to allow yourself some time, but then make sure you reward yourself with a break for your mind.
Be patient with yourself, be kind, and know that better things are always coming your way. If it was truly meant to be, it will be. If not, then that person you are meant to be with is not in your life yet. Trust me, they are worth the wait.
Much Love and Many Blessings,
Jasmeine Moonsong
